I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things
or that I have already reached perfection.
But I press on to possess that perfection for which
Christ Jesus first possessed me.
Philippians 3:12 (NLT)
I’ve always been a person who is tedious in nature and strives to do the best work possible, no matter what the task. I take pride in it. That is ok to a point, except when I put unnecessary time and effort into things that have to be my version of perfect. Why did I put so much pressure on myself causing a great deal of stress?
I had to begin by asking myself, why am I doing this?
- Am I looking for approval or praise?
- Am I spending too much time worrying about the project?
- Am I putting too much pressure on myself, wanting to be perfect?
- Did I commit to do something I am not equipped to do?
- Am I too proud to ask for help?
Here are some exercises that helped me to overcome
the negative power of perfectionism:
- Feel good about who you are. Pray to see yourself as He sees you. See Psalm 139.
- Be sure to pray and ask God if this project is something, He intended you to do? Ask, “is it in His plan for me? (See Jeremiah 29:11 below.)
- Don’t drive yourself nuts. Set a reasonable limit on the time spent on a task.
- If you need help, ask for it. But don’t let them do all the work.
- Give it your best and try to be ok with it.
- Be careful not to rely on approval or praise from others.
- Don’t over-extend yourself with projects. Learn to say, “no” or “let me think about it and I’ll get back to you.” Set boundaries and limits.
- Feel good about your accomplishments.
Next time you take on a project, pray,
ask God if this is in His plan for me. Ask, “Will it bring me closer to Him?”
Jeremiah 29:11-13 (NLT)
as though you were working for the Lord
rather than for people.
Colossians 3:23 (NLT)